Dr. Heath McKinley
Do you want to be your best, or do you have to be your best? As we move into 2009 with our respective vision of what life has in store for another year, many of you may be at the brink of another failed New Year’s Resolution. One of the more common questions I like to ask when someone sets a resolution is why are you doing yoga, kickboxing, a cleanse diet, starting chiropractic care, joining a walking group, stretching, taking vitamins, personal training, taking guitarlessons, planning a second baby, buying a new house, starting a new job, quiting your old job, leaving a relationship you currently hate, etc? Are you doing them because you HAVE to or because you WANT to?
Only you really know that answer. The more you feel you HAVE to do as opposed to WANT to do eventually leads to burn out, and another failed, yet well intended resolution. For example, someone may feel that they HAVE to eat vegetables more often or they HAVE to stop drinking diet coke, yet they WANT to have more energy and less headaches. If that person is focusing on the HAVE to stop portion it will most likely be a short lived resolution because they are not focusing on the more abundant vision of the life they actually WANT, a life with more energy and no headaches.
The want stems from purpose. If your purpose is weak, so will your new adopted habit. For example two people may want to exercise more often. The first person has a purpose of “I don’t want to be a size 15 anymore.” The second person has a purpose of “I want to be a great example for my kids so they choose to grow up healthy too, and I’ll have more energy to take on the volunteer activity I’ve always wanted to do but never had the energy.” You see, both want to exercise more, but one WANTS to a lot more than the other! One has a positive purpose, while the other is a little negative in its approach. Neither are wrong, but they will have different results not because of the action, which is the same…exercise, but because of the
purpose behind the action.
I hope these examples give a little clarity for introspection of your 2009 goals. Most people truly do WANT some kind of change to come into their life, but few take the necessary time to evaluate their purpose. I hope you choose to revisit yours as we roll in to 2009!